Parent In Control: Restore Order In Your Home And Create A Loving Relationship With Your Adolescent

Parent in Control is based on a highly successful program that has helped thousands of parents regain control over their out-of-control adolescents - whether they wreak havoc at home, in school, or in the community. Living with willful, aggressive, and seemingly incorrigible adolescent behavior is a nightmare many heartbroken and confused parents were forced to endure - until now. In this straightforward, hard-hitting, yet compassionate book, Gregory Bodenhamer, a nationally renowned expert on childhood behavior problems, shows parents how to combat an arsenal that ranges from blatant verbal challenges to physical violence, without resorting to harsh disciplinary measures, expensive counseling, or hospital-based programs. Bodenhamer, a former juvenile probation officer, draws on over twenty years of experience working with difficult children between the ages of 12 and 17 and their parents to offer techniques that work in as little as a few weeks. He covers a wide range of problems - whether your teen is simply ignoring household rules, or perhaps lying, or stealing - to more harmful problems, such as drug and alcohol abuse or unsafe sexual activities. Using real-life scenarios, complete with actual dialogue, Bodenhamer walks you through potentially explosive situations, points out errors most parents frequently make, and provides tested solutions to averting immediate danger - and preventing it from happening again.

Publishers Weekly

Bodenhamer, a former probation officer who is director of the Back in Control Center in Portland, Ore., believes we are confronting ``the worst behaved generation of children in American history.'' For parents who need to retake charge of their children, he suggests a three-point focus based on ``rule-based discipline, supervision and emotional attachment.'' Offering sound, practical advice on dealing with provocative and manipulative verbal challenges raised by teenagers and early adolescents, he presents a convincing case for giving highly detailed ``job descriptions'' to teens (if McDonald's has a 600-page operations manual for its employees, parents shouldn't shy from explaining precisely how to take out the garbage). Bodenhamer directly faces such incendiary issues as sex, substance abuse and peer pressure (including that from gangs). Frequently, however, he sounds a reactionary note, as when he rails against the American Civil Liberties Union as the nation's ``most persistent enemy of adult authority'' and cites ``an inherited link between impulsive and immature unwed teenager parents and the impulsive and immature children to whom they give birth.'' While there is valuable help here, much of it sounds like the stuff of talk radio. (Oct.)

Author : Gregory Bodenhamer

Publisher : Touchstone

Published Year : 1995-10-06

Format : Paperback, 192 pages

Dimensions : 6.10 (w) x 9.10 (h) x 0.50 (d)

ISBN : 0684807777

ISBN13 : 9780684807775

Overview :

Parent in Control is based on a highly successful program that has helped thousands of parents regain control over their out-of-control adolescents - whether they wreak havoc at home, in school, or in the community. Living with willful, aggressive, and seemingly incorrigible adolescent behavior is a nightmare many heartbroken and confused parents were forced to endure - until now. In this straightforward, hard-hitting, yet compassionate book, Gregory Bodenhamer, a nationally renowned expert on childhood behavior problems, shows parents how to combat an arsenal that ranges from blatant verbal challenges to physical violence, without resorting to harsh disciplinary measures, expensive counseling, or hospital-based programs. Bodenhamer, a former juvenile probation officer, draws on over twenty years of experience working with difficult children between the ages of 12 and 17 and their parents to offer techniques that work in as little as a few weeks. He covers a wide range of problems - whether your teen is simply ignoring household rules, or perhaps lying, or stealing - to more harmful problems, such as drug and alcohol abuse or unsafe sexual activities. Using real-life scenarios, complete with actual dialogue, Bodenhamer walks you through potentially explosive situations, points out errors most parents frequently make, and provides tested solutions to averting immediate danger - and preventing it from happening again.

Living with willful, aggressive, and seemingly incorrigible adolescent behavior is a nightmare many heartbroken and confused parents face. In this straightforward book, the author of Back in Control--a former probation officer--shows parents how to combat this problem without having to resort to harsh disciplinary measures, expensive counseling, or hospital-based programs. Radio features.